Moms know this to be true. The meaning of “busy” changes wildly. It’s not the same as when you were juggling classes and jobs in college. It’s not the same as when you were just a single lad or a lad with a companion trying to make dollar bills. Moms, regardless of how many kids you have, you are always at level 10/10 busy no matter if you are a stay-at-home, have a job outside the home, working from home, full time, part time, or sometime when you feel like it, you are playing survivor all day, every day.
We can all laugh about it and pass raising children off like it’s just one more task to cross off the to-do list. The fact of the matter is that this task never ends. Not even in your sleep if you’re sleeping. Singletons and childless couples can actually go to sleep when they are tired from work or play and not wake up until they get hungry for pizza or by a persistent alarm clock. Mothers who are tired after work or play don’t get this luxury.
Needless to say, mothers in the 21st century are busier than ever. Thus, they are more drained, overwhelmed, and overworked. This can lead to feelings of crying on the inside, crying on the outside, the inadequacy of not being able to handle everything like that one frenemy on Facebook, feeling unappreciated, and for many, on the brink of a clinical breakdown. (If you are really feeling overwhelmed and to the point where you can’t go on, please seek medical attention immediately.)
Moms out there, you need to take care of yourself sometimes. Force yourself to make time, even if it’s 5 minutes where you go hide in the bathroom. Your world that’s revolving around you (e.g., kids, partner, pets, jobs, friends), literally, depends on you to rotate properly on its axis. So, don’t feel guilty for doing it. Here are some of the easiest self-care tips for busy moms. Even the busiest moms won’t have an excuse not to try some of these out.
Go Hide Somewhere, Close Your Eyes, & Breathe
Do this for 5 minutes. Breathing is free and organic. Deep inhales, deep exhales, and just let whatever is getting at you at this moment slide off your shoulders. You owe it to yourself to breathe. We won’t make you go outside and take a walk for this one, a bathroom stall will do. The less you breathe, the more you will start to hyperventilate thus increasing feelings of anxiety and duress.
Get a Drink
We aren’t going to judge you if it’s a midday bloody mary, we will support that. However, a glass of water can be just as refreshing. When you’re dehydrated, you will end up feeling more tired, moody, grumpy, and just worse for wear. Drink a nice glass of water and see if it doesn’t make you feel just a wee bit better.
Lie Down for 5 Minutes
Most of you will feel guilty for lying down in the middle of the day while your kids are running around you trying to play Thomas the Train for the 50th time. Whether you’ve been at home all day or after you’ve gotten home from a long day at the office, chances are you’ve been on your feet or butt all day. Don’t feel guilty for lying down and rejuvenating your entire body by stretching out for 5 minutes. The cops aren’t going to come yet you and your kids aren’t going to post photos of you falsely appearing lazy to social media. Lie down, close your eyes, and just pretend you’re somewhere else for 5 minutes.
Pick Up a Little Treat
If I know anything about being a mom, I know you are under so much pressure to do and be everything. How dare you still have those 10 extra pounds and how dare you even touch carbs. Why don’t you look like those women in Hollywood or that “friend” down the street with the abs and crap. No one handles what you are doing on a daily basis other than you. So, give yourself a break and treat yourself to something small and joyous. Think chocolate bar, ice cream, a brownie, or a two glasses of wine without the guilt. You deserve it, fully.
Call a Friend Who Gets It
I am reluctant to say call a mom friend because that’s discriminating against a friend without kids who might completely “get it”. Calling a friend should be free these days and the only hang up is whether you both have time to talk! Connect with a friend you can just rant with without judgment. Talk to someone who won’t make you feel guilty for saying that you wish you could run away and know that it’s not some immoral reflection on the children.
We moms need to take breaks sometimes and we need to talk to someone who can help remind us that we aren’t doing horrible jobs. That we aren’t ruining our kids or our careers because we have to pick one over the other sometimes. That we aren’t robots expected to do everything and anything at a moment’s notice on everyone else’s whim. That at the end of the day, we did our best. And most importantly, that we are just human like everyone else.